I’m Pregnant!!!

So I guess the cat is out of the bag?! I’m pregnant! We did a digital test 9dp5dt. In other words, 9 days post our 5 day old embryo transfer. We were supposed to wait until May 4th which would have been 11 days, but decided to do the test the day before we left Portugal. I actually woke at 5am that day and couldn’t hold my pee any longer, so I peed on the stick and then left it hidden in the bathroom. It literally KILLED me to not look at it, but I had promised Audrey we would…

Embryo Transfer

Transferring an embryo is the process of placing an embryo into a woman's uterus with the intention of establishing a pregnancy.   The uterus must be ready to receive an embryo which is why uterine preparation meds are used- usually estrogen to start with and then progesterone 3 to 5 days before the transfer. Other meds such as Orgalutran can also be used, to make sure your body doesn’t ovulate. The uterine preparation can be tough on your body, mimicking early pregnancy. In the past I’ve felt bloated, exhausted and sore. But I actually felt quite good on this cycle,…

Egg Collection

So much of IVF is unknown. There is only so much in your control. We were able to do Audrey’s egg collection earlier this week. It all looked good but we really just had to wait to see what would happen. Yes you can do scanning and bloodwork to try predict the outcomes and even make an educated guess at how many you will get... but until you actually do it, there is no way to know how many mature eggs you will get, or what quality they will be.It’s the same with so much of this process. The ovarian…

Travelling with a Toddler

Travelling with a toddler is the best and the worst of childhood all rolled up into one messy little package.   I feel like sometimes people think Ava is totally chill all the time. Trust me. SHE’S NOT. Perhaps that’s my own fault? Maybe I need to start posting the meltdown videos as evidence? Words like strong willed, belligerent and independent spring to mind. Well let me tell you, those were not the words we were using at 2am last night.   Travelling is hard for anyone. Adult or child. So I imagine it must be hard on a toddler.…

Progress of our Reciprocal IVF Cycle

Well we are finally here in Portugal. Today is day 2 and we are feeling more settled in now. The first day was crazy, getting to the first appointment at Ferticentro Fertility Clinic for scans and bloods. As you all know by now, reciprocal IVF splits the IVF process between the two mothers. One gives the eggs and the other does the uterine preparation for embryo transfer. It’s really nerve wracking wondering whether things will be ok, or if you might encounter a problem. With IVF you can never be sure how things are progressing until you get a scan…

Reciprocal IVF: our story

My name is Ranae. My wife Audrey and I live in Ireland with our 19 month old daughter Ava. We decided in 2015 to undergo ‘Reciprocal IVF’ treatment in Spain, as it was not available to us in the South of Ireland under the current legislation. (That’s a topic for another day!) It’s also known as ROPA or Shared Motherhood. Not many people have done reciprocal IVF in Ireland, and it’s an unknown area for lots of couples.Think of this as a ‘behind the scenes’ look into the world of same-sex IVF or for anyone wishing to avail of IVF…